I feel like a lot of things have been happening for me in the past few years. And from a spiritual standpoint I suppose it should be obvious that this is all a part of "the plan." Maybe I've had a few trials thrown my way. And at the time I guess I was so underwater that the reasons were still foggy and unclear. And my mind was taking those unclear images and turning them into bigger and badder things. Setbacks became brick walls- coming between me and where I needed to get to. "This is hard," became "This is impossible." And the impossible meant that I should just give up.
Living in Southern California, in such a relaxed atmosphere, it's easy to get lazy. And for me, it's even easier to get lazy because I am, by nature, not a very ambitious person. Not in a bad way but merely that I am someone who takes a much more laid back approach to life. I don't get caught up in competition, or worrying that I'm not like other people in my demographic. I think I learned at a young age that I wasn't like the other kids in my family or classes at school. And I embraced that in the only way I knew how- to just exist as who I was and no one else. Pretty healthy approach, really. But in existing, I forgot to strive for more. Not more than anyone else had, but more than I had. I didn't care if I had a fancy car or the hottest boyfriend. I wanted to be simple and happy and at peace with where I was at that moment. Except that I never anticipated the next moment. And while I sat there, happy as a clam, I lost sight of making goals and having ambitions for myself. To further my character and my life. And then something terrible happened. I got bored.
Boredom could possibly be one of the greatest enemies of the American woman today. Boredom creates drama, it creates laziness, it creates wallowing. Not challenging yourself means not growing, and not growing means stagnancy. The thing about stagnancy is that you can get so comfortable that you feel like this is "it" for you. This is where you belong. And the thought of moving again starts to seem so arduous that you figure "hey, I got HERE, didn't I? Here is good enough." But HERE isn't good enough. To be 27 and have arrived Here with no more stories or adventures is just damn depressing. And if you're lucky, something will come along and kick you right in your lazy ass. For me it took a number of things... because I can be as stubborn and lazy as they come.
When I had my surgery, it rocked me. Not physically, and not emotionally per se. But hearing words tossed around like "Chemo" and "Bypass Surgery" shook me up like a damn soda bottle. I was 27, things like this happen to people who are older. People who have really LIVED. And then I thought about it... have I though? Have I lived? What did I have to show for a 27 year old? A cat. I fully owned a cat. And it occurred to me that life isn't about what I owned, but the experiences that I had. The stories I could tell. And trust me, I've got some stories. So once I fully healed from my surgery, I intended to really take care of myself and live the life I was meant to. And I meant it, I really did. But as time passed something awful happened again. I got bored. I had a comfortable relationship and a comfortable life. And there were plenty of stories happening all around me every day. Some I was even involved in. So time passed and I stayed where I was.
And then my relationship ended, and I realized that I needed to take some time for myself. Time to figure out where I wanted to go and what I wanted to do. Find my own stories to tell. And something happened, and the next thing I knew I was sitting in a hospital in Colorado holding my comatose sister's hand. Life is so fragile, it's so fleeting. And nothing can hit home that message like the possibility of losing a loved one. I sank underwater again. I couldn't tell what was up and what was down, images became so cloudy in my mind that I lost my own thoughts. What did family mean to me? What did my life mean any more? I could handle mortality when it was me in the hospital gurney, but seeing my sister laying there was a whole 'nother ballgame. My big sister- who I had always admired more than anything in the world. And I knew that if I was going to stay on this Earth, it was going to have to start MEANING something. But how did I get there?
Lucky for me I had some help in that arena. That kick in the ass that I needed, inspiring me that moving forward was possible. And like a surfboard leash does after a giant wave, it dragged me upside down to the surface. I have to admit, it's been the first breath of fresh air to my lungs in quite a while.
And so now here we sit. I am seeing things so much more clearly lately. Almost to a point where I'm scaring myself. Life is fragile, and short. And I am happy, always. And satisfied with who and where I am. But there's more to life than today. I want to strive. I want to do WELL, and have stories to tell. Stories that will wow people. Experiences that I can look back on and say "I lived, I went forward." A friend of mine and I were talking last week about how people in Orange County can get so lazy that it's almost a part of the culture. But I'm setting out to prove that I can be laid back without being lazy. I can be awesome. I can not only surface, but I can excel.